Finally, a Recovery Program Designed for High-Performing Gay Men 🦄

My 3-month group program will help you break the cycle of drug use and chemsex without rehab or 12-step dogma.

Start Date: 10th Feb, 2025

I’ve helped queer people all over the world transform their relationship with drugs using my proven recovery method.

This program is for you if:

✔️ You’re smart and self-aware, but you feel stuck in a destructive cycle of drug use and sex

✔️ You want to quit the drugs causing you problems, like meth or cocaine, but don’t want full sobriety

✔️ You don’t want to put your life on hold by going to rehab

✔️ You know you need support, but anything related to 12-step really turns you off

✔️ You’re maintaining a professional position, but your drug use makes you feel like a imposter

✔️ You’re exhausted, and your body feels like it’s breaking down from all the drug use

✔️ You’ve struggled to open up about your issues because you don’t believe anyone could understand you

✔️ You’re finding it hard to connect with others or have sex without being intoxicated

✔️ You’re beating yourself up every time you use, and the shame has become unbearable

✔️ Your comedowns are getting worse and harder to handle as time goes on

You need a judgment-free space to explore your drug use, fully supported by someone who’s been in your shoes & come out the other side.

My program will teach you to:

Develop a healthy relationship with drugs & sex

Avoid using drugs when triggered

Understand cravings & work on eliminating them

Socialise, date & have sex without drugs

Cultivate self-compassion & curiosity

Process stress & emotions without needing to numb & escape

Use substances only in therapeutic & productive ways

Build self-trust & self-worth

Open up to the people you love & receive their support

Stop beating yourself up every time you use

Say no to people & stand up for yourself

Prioritise your physical & emotional health

Understand when your shame is driving your behaviour

Regulate your nervous system without drugs

Hey there 👋🏻

I’m Andrew, a proudly queer Recovery Coach with a long history of substance abuse. The shame and self-hatred I carried from growing up closeted led me to numb with whatever I could find—meth, oxycontin, sleeping pills.

Since quitting meth at 30, I have never stopped learning and growing. At 36, I have now spent the past 3.5 years coaching gay & queer people all over the world struggling with substance abuse. This program brings together everything I’ve learned in my own recovery and from helping hundreds of people along the way.

I look forward to supporting you 🙂💕

You may likely be feeling:

😔 I’m too far gone & no one could understand or help me

😔 I might struggle to stay sober during the program

😔 What can I really achieve in 8 weeks?

😔 I’ve tried so many other things and they haven’t worked

😔 I’m scared to show my face in a group

Here’s what I can promise you:

🙂 No one is too far gone! We all think we're especially fucked up, but you'd be surprised how many people are struggling just like you.

🙂 This isn’t a 12-step program—there’s no expectation of sobriety. We’ll work through your drug use as it happens and learn from it.

🙂 Your journey doesn’t end after 8 weeks! Our time together will lay a strong foundation for the rest of your recovery

🙂 You’ve never tried a program like this—one designed specifically for gay men dealing with trauma and using drugs & sex to cope.

🙂 You can start the group calls anonymously. Once you build trust and see it’s a safe space, you can choose to turn on your camera.

How it works

I created this program as a safe place for gay and queer men to explore their drug use, closet trauma, and chemsex. It combines insights from Polyvagal Theory, Holistic Psychotherapy, Gay Trauma Studies, and Somatic Therapy to offer a unique approach to addressing the root causes of our drug and sex fixation. I’m excited about the blend of 1:1 and group coaching, which provides both personal support along with a sense of belonging 🌈

Here’s what you’ll get:

⭐️ Weekly Group Coaching

A Zoom session with the 6-12 other queer men going through the program alongside you. We’ll discuss important weekly tasks and create a space to learn from each other, build community, and strategise with others on the same path to recovery and healing.

⭐️ Fortnightly 1:1 Coaching

A 50-minute weekly session with me. A place to feel fully supported as we dive deep into understanding your drug use and what it reveals about the work ahead. We'll connect your past experiences to your current core beliefs and explore how they drive you toward escapism and self-soothing with drugs and sex.

⭐️ Weekly Worksheets

Each week, participants receive worksheets to explore key topics like triggers, self-worth, and aligning lifestyle with values. These tools complement group discussions, supporting clarity and growth on your recovery journey.

⭐️ WhatsApp community with your peers

A space to stay connected throughout the week - where you can come when you’re feeling lonely or down, to share ideas and wins, and find support and guidance whenever you need it 💕

Testimonials from my gorgeous clients 👇🏻

  • "When I began my recovery journey, I was in a dark place, using meth daily. With Andrew's unique and unwavering support, I can confidently say I'm now on a path to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life. This Wednesday marks four months since I last touched meth!"

    Matt, 40, Marketing Director

  • "A sincere & heartfelt thank you, you've made a tremendous impact on my life in a short amount of time & I appreciate it so much!"

    Julio, 32, HR Manager

  • “Andrew has helped me a great deal and the work I've done has been so beneficial. This has been a struggle in my life for the past 10-15 years and I finally feel like I have an understanding and somewhat handle on my substance use. If I keep applying the tools I learned I can keep improving my life. Thank you.”

    John, 50, Interior Deisgner

  • "I am so grateful for Andrew! He is such a beautiful man with a wealth of knowledge and help. I cant thank you enough! Thank you for giving me back my life."

    Peter, 33, Tech Sales

  • “At first I didn’t think anyone could help me - but I finally found someone that related to me, has been through what I was going through and was able to guide me. Andrew made the process feel easy, like there was no reason to feel ashamed about what has happened as long as you are willing to change. Andrew helped me to realise that there is always a way to trust in myself and that everything can work out!”

    Long, 22, Architecture Student

  • “My relationship with drugs and alcohol was very destructive. I blamed myself and felt so incredibly shameful. I now am much happier and have enough self-trust to allow myself a drink when the time permits. I now feel in control and am much happier and proud of myself”

    Stuart, 36, Gym Owner

  • "THANK YOU!!! Andrew you helped me get through a period of my life where I felt trapped!! Trapped by my own thoughts and behaviours!! Thank you so much. You really have helped me so much!!"

    Owen, 28, Stylist

  • "Thank you so much Andrew! Honestly even just having you to talk to about my drug use really put things into perspective. You have helped me achieve my goal and you got me through this show. I don’t think I would’ve been physically & mentally capable of doing it without you"

    Callum, 26, Dancer

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Let’s work together to build you a life where you feel in control, confident, self-assured, and connected.

Now:

😔 You keep going back, even though you know it’s hurting you

😔 You feel isolated & lonely

😔 You’ve lost sense of who you are

😔 You’re lying to your family & friends

😔 Your mental & physical health are suffering

😔 You’re struggling to connect without drugs

😔 You’re experiencing deep shame & guilt

😔 You’re struggling to find joy in the small things

After:

🙂 You feel more in control of your drug use than ever

🙂 You have a new community of people who understand you

🙂 You’re self exploring with compassion & understanding

🙂 You’re able to open up & receive support

🙂 You have a new lifestyle that serves you instead of destroys you

🙂 You can connect with people more authentically

🙂 Your self worth & self esteem have improved

🙂 You’re finally prioritising what truly matters