Finally, a Recovery Program Designed for Gay Men 🦄
My 12 week group program will help you break the cycle of drug use and chemsex without rehab or 12-step dogma.
Start Date: 10th Feb | Spots Left: 4
I’ve helped queer people all over the world transform their relationship with drugs using my proven recovery method.
This program is for you if:
✔️ You’re smart and self-aware, but you feel stuck in a destructive cycle of drug use and sex
✔️ You want to quit the drugs causing you problems, like meth or cocaine, but don’t want full sobriety
✔️ You don’t want to put your life on hold by going to rehab
✔️ You know you need support, but anything related to 12-step really turns you off
✔️ You’re maintaining a professional position, but your drug use makes you feel like a imposter
✔️ You’re exhausted, and your body feels like it’s breaking down from all the drug use
✔️ You’ve struggled to open up about your issues because you don’t believe anyone could understand you
✔️ You’re finding it hard to connect with others or have sex without being intoxicated
✔️ You’re beating yourself up every time you use, and the shame has become unbearable
✔️ Your comedowns are getting worse and harder to handle as time goes on
Testimonials from my gorgeous clients 👇🏻
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"Working with Andrew has helped me regain control of my life in a way that I would not have thought was possible a year or so back. By recognising and working to dismantle the negative belief system that was hijacking my life, I've reconnected with myself, and am able to see and love myself with a new level of appreciation and compassion."
M, 34, San Francisco
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"Before working with Andrew, I was stuck in a cycle of chemsex, regularly using drugs and engaging in compulsive, random sexual encounters as a way to connect with men. I didn’t fully understand why I kept turning to these behaviors, and I often felt deep shame and guilt afterward. It became my default way of dealing with feelings of loneliness and the need for validation. Now, after several months of working together, I haven’t used drugs, nor do I feel the desire to. I’ve gained clarity on what I want in life and learned techniques to set strong boundaries around my well-being."
K, 36, Berlin
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"Working with Andrew has helped me understand the deeper reasons behind my behaviors, particularly how trauma, shame, and unresolved emotional voids led me toward chemsex. He helped me view these experiences with compassion and empathy, which allowed me to be kinder to myself. I’ve learned to recognize my emotional needs without judgment and have stopped seeking external validation through drugs or apps. Unlike some approaches that view relapses through a lens of shame, Andrew encouraged me to see each slip not as a failure, but as a data point in our ongoing journey toward growth. This perspective empowered me to learn from setbacks and use them as opportunities to strengthen and improve."
M, 40, Melbourne
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"While I had been able to significantly reduce my frequency of usage prior to starting with Andrew, I was in need of support to help me confront and address the underlying reasons that fuelled my addiction in the first place - I wanted my progress to be sustainable and lasting. With his coaching, I progressively uncovered and understood more pieces of the puzzle that explained how I had gotten to this point in my life. Each session we were able to tackle different topics and develop and expand a toolkit that has been immensely helpful in rebuilding my life; the level of personalized care and insights that Andrew has given me in this process have been invaluable."
J, 32, Seattle
You need a judgment-free space to explore your drug use, fully supported by someone who’s been in your shoes & come out the other side.
My program will teach you to:
Develop a healthy relationship with drugs & sex
Avoid using drugs when triggered
Understand cravings & work on eliminating them
Socialise, date & have sex without drugs
Cultivate self-compassion & curiosity
Process stress & emotions without needing to numb & escape
Use substances only in therapeutic & productive ways
Build self-trust & self-worth
Open up to the people you love & receive their support
Stop beating yourself up every time you use
Say no to people & stand up for yourself
Prioritise your physical & emotional health
Understand when your shame is driving your behaviour
Regulate your nervous system without drugs
Hey there 👋🏻
I’m Andrew, a proudly queer Recovery Coach with a long history of substance abuse. The shame and self-hatred I carried from growing up closeted led me to numb with whatever I could find—meth, oxycontin, sleeping pills.
Since quitting meth at 30, I have never stopped learning and growing. At 36, I have now spent the past 3.5 years coaching gay & queer people all over the world struggling with substance abuse. This program brings together everything I’ve learned in my own recovery and from helping hundreds of people along the way.
I look forward to supporting you 🙂💕
You may likely be feeling:
😔 I’m too far gone & no one could understand or help me
😔 I might struggle to stay sober during the program
😔 What can I really achieve in 8 weeks?
😔 I’ve tried so many other things and they haven’t worked
😔 I’m scared to show my face in a group
Here’s what I can promise you:
🙂 No one is too far gone! We all think we're especially fucked up, but you'd be surprised how many people are struggling just like you.
🙂 This isn’t a 12-step program—there’s no expectation of sobriety. We’ll work through your drug use as it happens and learn from it.
🙂 Your journey doesn’t end after 12 weeks! Our time together will lay a strong foundation for the rest of your recovery
🙂 You’ve never tried a program like this—one designed specifically for gay men dealing with trauma and using drugs & sex to cope.
🙂 You can start the group calls anonymously. Once you build trust and see it’s a safe space, you can choose to turn on your camera.
How it works
I created this program as a safe place for gay and queer men to explore their drug use, closet trauma, and chemsex. It combines insights from Polyvagal Theory, Holistic Psychotherapy, Gay Trauma Studies, and Somatic Therapy to offer a unique approach to addressing the root causes of our drug and sex fixation. I’m excited about the blend of 1:1 and group coaching, which provides both personal support along with a sense of belonging 🌈
Here’s what you’ll get:
⭐️ Weekly Group Coaching
A Zoom session with the 6-12 other queer men going through the program alongside you. We’ll discuss important weekly tasks and create a space to learn from each other, build community, and strategise with others on the same path to recovery and healing.
⭐️ Fortnightly 1:1 Coaching
A 50-minute weekly session with me. A place to feel fully supported as we dive deep into understanding your drug use and what it reveals about the work ahead. We'll connect your past experiences to your current core beliefs and explore how they drive you toward escapism and self-soothing with drugs and sex.
⭐️ Weekly Worksheets
Each week, participants receive worksheets to explore key topics like triggers, self-worth, and aligning lifestyle with values. These tools complement group discussions, supporting clarity and growth on your recovery journey.
⭐️ WhatsApp community with your peers
A space to stay connected throughout the week - where you can come when you’re feeling lonely or down, to share ideas and wins, and find support and guidance whenever you need it 💕
Let’s work together to build you a life where you feel in control, confident, self-assured, and connected.
Now:
😔 You keep going back, even though you know it’s hurting you
😔 You feel isolated & lonely
😔 You’ve lost sense of who you are
😔 You’re lying to your family & friends
😔 Your mental & physical health are suffering
😔 You’re struggling to connect without drugs
😔 You’re experiencing deep shame & guilt
😔 You’re struggling to find joy in the small things
After:
🙂 You feel more in control of your drug use than ever
🙂 You have a new community of people who understand you
🙂 You’re self exploring with compassion & understanding
🙂 You’re able to open up & receive support
🙂 You have a new lifestyle that serves you instead of destroys you
🙂 You can connect with people more authentically
🙂 Your self worth & self esteem have improved
🙂 You’re finally prioritising what truly matters